Dear Lonely Mom,
It’s crazy isn’t it? How from the moment we become mothers, we are almost never physically alone. We have babies at the breast, in our arms, or on our hips almost constantly. Solo bathroom trips become nonexistent and everything from your bed to your dinners seems to get shared with someone else at one point or another. Yet, motherhood can feel so very, very lonely. It’s easy to become isolated in our homes, our backyards, even our local play grounds and its so easy to start to wonder – “Is it only me?!”
Is it only me who raises their voice sometimes? Is it only me who ran out of milk for the cereal this morning? Is it only me who thinks my kids are adorable even when they are covered in dirt? Is it only me who feels like it is only me?!
Well, my sweet lonely mom, I’m here to tell you that you are NOT the only one and you are not truly alone.
When your child brings home a behavior report from school and you start to question every life lesson you’ve tried to instill in your child – you are not alone.
When your baby has cried all night and you start to think that maybe you weren’t cut out for this parenting gig – you are not alone.
When you find yourself serving peanut butter and jelly for the third lunch in a row and you wonder if your kids will have serious eating issues as adults as a result – you are not alone.
When you sneak outside or to your room or the grocery store without the kids to catch your breath and question your own ability for patience – you are not alone.
When you feel like you are wrestling a python as you strap a wailing toddler into their car seat and you are certain that somebody will be calling the authorities at any moment – you are definitely not alone.
This parenting job is tough. It’s blessed and beautiful but it is tough.
There is good news though Momma…
When you look at your child and see a sweet, bright eyed, fun, and intelligent human – you are not alone.
When you see how much potential your child has to change the world – you are not alone.
When you feel pride in this little humans you have been raising every single day – you are not alone.
I promise there are other out there who see your kids and see their shining light. There are teachers that adore them, strangers who will see them and smile, and people who see all the good you are doing as you take on this task that is parenting.
Hang in there today. Even as you find yourself feeling lonely, please remember that you are not alone.
A Mom Who Is With You
PS – If you are a mom who is finding herself with feelings of severe depression, loneliness, or alarming thoughts please reach out for support. Never forget that the National Suicide Hotline is available 24 hours a day/7 days per week at 1 -800-273 -8255 and you can find resources for help online HERE. Please speak with your doctor soon if you have long lasting feelings of loneliness, helplessness, or stress – they are there to help and you ARE NOT ALONE in seeking guidance as a mother. You are also always welcome to reach out to me in the comments or through email.