“I love you,” I say as I kiss my oldest daughter’s cheek and finish tucking her in for the night.
“I know mom, you tell me all the time,” she says but her smile lets me know she doesn’t mind hearing it again. It’s in that moment that I begin to wonder..will she know it when she needs it most?
Will She Know It When..
She struggles to fit in at school or on the sports team or anywhere else? Because I love her even when she feels like a misfit in her own family.
She makes a big mistake? One that feels like it can’t be undone and life will never move on? Because I love her so very much then.
What about when we argue, the way strong willed daughters and stubborn mothers are prone to do? When words are exchanged and doors shut a bit too loudly? Will she know that my love reaches out to her and wraps around her even then?
When she is heartbroken over the loss of a pet, or a friend, or a boy..will she know that even if my words of comfort can’t heal wounds – I truly love her then?
How about when she finds herself miles from home for the first time, and wishing she wasn’t, and my arms can’t reach her for a hug? Because I definitely love her even then!
When she finds her passion and spreads her wings to go and chase big dreams? Will she know I love her even as she is starting to truly love herself?
When she finds someone she loves differently than she has ever loved her parents or her siblings? Will she know that as this new love grows, I still love her, and the one she is sharing life with as well?
When I’m old and can’t remember all the details of life or sit safely behind the steering wheel of a car and refuse to follow doctor’s orders..will she know that this stubborn old lady will never forget that she loves a beautiful grown woman whose cheeks she used to kiss every night at bedtime?
As I close the door on her room, all I can do is pray that what she knows now about my love for her will stick with her always. That all these whispered I love yous, all these cheek kisses, all these “I know mom” moments will last. That when she really needs it..she will know without a doubt..that I am her mother and I love her forever.
When do you hope your kids will remember that you love them?! Let me know in the comments!