Merriam-Webster defines sisterhood as “the state of being a sister” and “the solidarity of women based on shared conditions, experiences, or concerns.” Better yet, Urban Dictionary defines a sisterhood as “A bond between two or more girls, not always related by blood. They always tell the truth, honor each other, and love each other like sisters.” To be honest, I love that last definition a lot.
I am an only child. This had its perks when I was young and still does as I have aged. Yet, I often wondered about the experience of having a sibling.
When my husband and I had our first daughter in 2011 I fell more in love with her than I ever thought possible. We spent a lot of time those first couple of years thinking about what we wanted to provide for the spunky red head who ruled our roost at any opportunity. After much debate, I decided I wanted to give her a sibling. Our second daughter arrived in 2014 and because I’m a natural over achiever, our third daughter arrived in 2016.
I officially had 3 daughters ages 5 and under. I had no experience with raising one girl, or two girls, and especially not three. You can read about what I’ve learned about being a girl mom here!
I knew nothing about siblings other than experiences I had heard from several people who didn’t get along with theirs. A house full of girls was beginning to quickly seem like a blessing and a curse.
As the girls have started to grow I’ve learned a lot about things like sibling rivalry, room sharing, toy sharing, individuality, and compromise. I’ve seen pride and jealousy. I’ve seen a desire to escape and a longing for their family. I am continuing to be awed by the bonds of family.
While I can’t make my girls always get along and I can’t assure that they will grow up to be best friends, I do have a few desires for them as siblings…
1. I Hope They Fight
And after they fight, that they know how to makeup. I hope they fight because they are honest with each other and people aren’t perfect and don’t always get along. I hope they fight for what they believe in and when one stops the other from getting into trouble. I hope they fight for each other when one has struggles.
2. I Hope They Annoy Each Other
A sister should be able to embarrass you a little bit. They should know the parts of you that others don’t. They should feel comfortable enough to borrow your clothes or tease you about your new crush. Yet, under the annoyance I hope they feel a sense of joy in being together and when one is having a bad day, the other will take the time to lend a hand.
3. I Hope They Laugh Until They Cry
Because what is life without some laughter? I hope they know that even when things are serious, and your sister has barged in on you in the bathroom one too many times – it’s still pretty funny when she impersonates that crazy face mom makes when she is mad.
4. I Hope They Wipe Each Other’s Tears
Because sometimes the world is dark and scary and sad. I want to know that even if I’m not there to comfort them, my girls will have each other.
5. I Hope They Poke Each Other On Long Car Rides..
And sing off key until the other one plugs her ears. I hope they whine and complain and ask “are we there yet?” but eventually pass out in a tangled heap in the back seat. Better yet, I hope that one day they look back and realize that being bored in the car with their sisters was some of the most fun they ever had.
6. I Hope They Reminisce..
About backyard swinging, trouble making, animal raising, argument having, name calling, couch cuddling, sports playing, hand holding, fun having youthful memories because what they grew up with wasn’t just sisters but a true sisterhood.
Did you have siblings? What was your experience like? Help me out and fill me in with your raising siblings advice and experience in the comments!